Is it just the physical or is domestic violence manifested emotionally/mentally?
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10/30
Violence comes in various forms and sizes. And even when physical violence isn't a factor---our words can inflict pain never the less. Be it man against women, visa versa or parents berating children, and even sometimes children berating parents....... -
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10/30often times I refer to a song when putting a point across, in this instance I am reminded of one of my favorites.
What the World Needs Now Is Love Sweet Love
(no, not just for some but for everyone)
Knowing what I know now I'd like to hear a remake...
What the World Needs Now is Love Healthy Love.
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10/30domestic violence can definitely be manifested emotionally/mentally. for me, it was my father. he didn't know how do deal with me, and was jealous of me cause he was co-dependant on my mother and I was constantly taking her attention from him...so he yelled and called me stupid, crazy, and said things like "children should be seen and not heard" all the time. I was a very sensative child, so no matter how he meant what he said, I took it all to heart. It was painful.
But another form of abuse that should not go unmentioned is neglect. cause that was painful too...that when my father wasn't saying mean things to me, he was hardly aware of my presence, unless i was annoying him of course.
i can honestly say that i grew up wishing that i was living in a single-parent household...it could not have been any worse to not have him there than it was to have him there, I believe. -
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10/31And the beauty of it all is that you survived. Welcome to the Women Who Love Too Much, Me Shell. Glad you made it which means you will continue to make it. Amen. -
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10/31The question is, why is violence increasing period and what do we do about it? -
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11/01I think all we can *do* about it is live lives that are not violent ourselves; approach the world with love and tolerance and raise our kids in homes that are not simmering with hostility...
I made my second husband move out and still dated him for a year because he was mean and I didn't want my kids (2 boys, one girl) to see me accepting treatment like that...(I stayed -sort of- in the relationship for that extra year because "I love him!" which is why lots of women stay I think, I need to be tolerant when someone tells me that excuse and remember when that felt true to me too...)
I always think about the fact that I'm raising two husbands and a wife (long long in the future, I hope! lol) and I know from my own childhood that violence or abuse of any kind is multi-generational. My boys (18 and 20 now) seem to truly love and respect women, and are attracted to strong ones, and my daughter knows that we don't let anyone mistreat us (and that even includes yelling or just being mean). She still has a mean dad, but he's not mean to her, and she has my dad and the way he treats me to contrast with...
Other than that, I can always be available to any woman who is suffering violence, and not react that way myself.
I also pray every day, and slip it in there that the world become a more loving place starting with me... -
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11/01I made an error so I deleted it, what I meant to type was my agreement with Laura Bee, I echo, "starting with me." -
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11/02Be less tolerant of mates who have nothing to contribute to a healthy relationship.
Use the resources that are available nowadays and get out, and away from the abuser.
Get help and counselling if you are a victim, and share the goodthings with your children if any.... that arise out of counselling . Get help for your children if necessary.
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11/02I think that the mental/emotional abuse are so widely used today but so many don't realize they are being abused because they are so "broken". The abuser makes them feel less than worthy of anything else and they don't see they are being abused. These kinds of abuse can be just as deadly as physical abuse. I feel that friends and family have to step in and support the mentally and emotionally abused with the love and kindness. Letting them know they deserve more and are worth the love. They need to see the abuse because the the one being abused is not going to see it until they are boosted back up to the level where they will see how the abuser is not looking out for their best interest...... that is the only time they will get help. Otherwise they will be blinded. -
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11/04. As adults we must be supportive of those who are being abused as Angel has said,but also teach mental and emotional self defence without malice. As men we must have zero tolerates of other men who abuse and bully starting at childhood for this action is passed for father to son,from man to boy with the result of destruction of every one in it's path.
Let's also discount phycoemotional crutches for some these men,cause some of them are just plain evil and have to be deal with that way.
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